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i was once again reminded that i am primarily a service submissive.  For the past few weeks, i have been unable to spend as much time as i would wish with LadyHotchKiss and tending to Her household handyman needs.  There are a number of projects that have been suffering as a result.  The play time has not been affected, but i noticed that i was not enjoying the playtime nearly as much. Read the rest of this entry »

Orgasm Denial….arggghhhhh….dreaded words to a sub/slave.  It’s not that we can’t go without an orgasm for a certain period of time, it’s that so much of what we do is sensual in nature.  Combine the sensual/sexual nature of what we do with an edict that one may not have an orgasm does serve to heighten the sensuality, but it also produces, at least in males, an unpleasant physiological response commonly referred to as “blue balls”.  Read the rest of this entry »

It would be nice if i could live BDSM 24/7, unfortunately (and sometimes fortunately), the rest of the world will sometimes insist that i pay some attention. This blog is about one of those times. Read the rest of this entry »

i have written about the use of medical sounds (called sounding by some) before, but it has been some time and i believe the last time i wrote about it, it was a description of my first experience.  Just the thought of a long metal rod being inserted in one’s cock was enough to send chills up my spine, and that first experience was marked by my fear of the unknown to the point where that fear was the most relevant part of the experience.  Read the rest of this entry »

Social networks such as Fetlife and Collarme can provide very useful functions for those of us in the BDSM “lifestyle”.  They can be places to meet others of like mind, both in your area and around the world, places to go to learn about different kinks and other activities, places to go to just play and have fun with new found friends.  Read the rest of this entry »

A question brought up by my Owner, LadyHotchKiss, has prompted this post.  i had come to believe that Her idea of punishment was proper, appropriate and served a good purpose.  She has always styled the punishment to relate closely to the infraction and has always striven to ensure the punishment taught a needed lesson.  But the more i think about the subject, the more i am coming to believe that corporal punishment also has a place in the M/s dynamic.  Unless, of course, the one being punished is indeed a masochist, in which case it does no good at all.  Read the rest of this entry »

i recently had occasion to be punished (am still under the punishment actually) for an infraction that i won’t go into here as it doesn’t really add to the post. Suffice to say, LadyHotchKiss was not pleased with Her boy.  i knew i was going to be punished, but there was no way to guess which direction the punishment might take as LadyH always comes up with unique punishments.  They are rarely very punishing, however. She prefers punishments which teach something the sub/slave needs to learn or relearn.  She did not tell me what She wanted me to learn from this punishment.  i believe She’s waiting for me to tell what i have learned and will correct me if i’m wrong.  Hence, the purpose of this writing. Read the rest of this entry »